parents and family
welcome to the inner woman
The inner woman is part of the inner family with inner child, inner woman and inner man. In my Christmas project
2015 about the inner family I talked
about the inner child, the inner woman and the inner man in three German
webinars. Here you´ll find the content of the webinar no.2 about
the inner woman.
If you want to participate in another Christmas
project about the inner family with inner child, inner woman and inner
man in a slightly different form in 2016, you should follow me on Facebook and / or Google+.
All basic and
background information you learn in my book „Spiritual Psychotherapy:
The inner family“ (German edition, English translation is in progress), which
has also a lot of information for interested layman.
Spiritual Master Ayleen Lyschamaya
Webinar about the inner family - part
2: The inner woman
my webinars about the inner family in everyday life. The inner family consists
of an inner child, an inner woman and an inner man. These are not just any
intrapsychic shares among other possibilities, but each individual human
psyche is an internal family. From the condition and the composition of the
inner family members derive every human personality structure.
That's why there are exactly three types of people, children, women and
men in the outer as a mirror of the psyche. All human beings, so to speak,
live in the middle of a model. You live in a concrete outer illustration
of your inner family and therefore you can learn a lot.
Today I talk about the inner woman. The inner woman is the emotional
base and the center of the inner family. She is responsible for feelings,
contacts and relationships. She ensures the connection of the inner parts
of the personality as well as the connection of external persons. For people
with high inner woman share relationships are particular important.
The inner woman suffers much if relationships don´t work, but she
is also the part of the personality, that makes relationships become happy.
The inner woman can be very sad, disappointed and anxious, but only if
her needs are not met by harmonious and loving relationships. Otherwise
it is she, who feels emotional fulfillment.
The healthy inner woman has loving relationships inside with the inner
child, the inner man and the transcendent. She ensures the integrity of
the inner family and has a balancing effect. She is particularly sensitive
and so much related to others, that she needs an internal or external man
The inner woman is a very important intrapsychic personality share. If
the inner woman is injured or underdeveloped, that leads to massive disruptions
in all emotional and social areas. The inner woman is sentimental, open
to others, compassionate, multitasking, linguistic, a team player and just
in charge of relationships.
That is why I would like to specifically look at relationships, now.
If you know the personality structure of people, all kinds of relationships
can be designed much more constructive. In the following I mainly want to
look at intimate relationships.
First, look at your own personality structure:
The state and the interaction of the inner family members result in the
personality structure of a person. Therefore you should first find out, what
kind of personality structure you have got yourself. If relationships are
very important for you, you are an emotional person and you orientate yourself
at your partner, you presumable have a high share of inner woman. If you
are more interested in professional success than in relationships, prefer
dealing with your hobbies rather than with other people, and are more individualistic,
your inner man is standing in the foreground. There are also people with
roughly the same strong inner man and inner woman personality shares.
Second, determine your own needs:
If you can judge your own personality, you should also be clear about
your dream partner. Write down what features in a partner are important to
you. Then sort them according to whether they belong to the inner woman or
the inner man. With this you realize what kind of personality structure you
are looking for in a partner.
Third, quality rating:
Now, it is time to judge, what wishes are realistic. An inner woman personality
often feels attracted to an inner man person and vice versa, because they
complement each other. Then, the inner woman personality can expect from
the inner man partner stability, orientation, protection and demarcation
and should in turn nourish the emotional range and invest into the relationship.
But to seek in an inner man partner relationship skills, too, is unrealistic.
If one wishes for a dream partner with full, healthy and well-connected
inner family members, you have to develop this inside of yourself first,
because otherwise you cannot stand such a dream partner and would unconsciously
boycott the relationship. There will always be a partner for you, who is equal
to the current state of your consciousness. The other person is a learning
task as a mirror for one's own unconscious. Accordingly, the right person
will always be met at accurately the right time.
Fourth, more clarity on existing relationships:
It also makes sense to look at already existing relationships. What kind
of personality structure do you have yourself and what is the personality
structure of your partner? Do you appreciate the strengths of the other,
which you yourself are missing? And do you expect things from the other,
which are easy for you, but not for his or her personality structure?
Knowledge of the inner family may lead to completely new insights and
Case 1) With my last boyfriend I was together for nine years.
When we first met, I was early 20s, saleswoman and we both were still open
to everything. But over the years we developed completely different. I flourished
in my job, met with friends and loved to go out. He, however, remained at
home and spoke early of an own family. Eventually, in the evenings we did
not even know what we should talk about - and parted. It took me a long
time to complete.
Their original base was inner woman harmony and emotionality. But then
she developes her inner man (her job becomes important and she is active
even if in relationship areas). Her inner woman development is saturated
and she has grown out of it. On contrary he still wants to live his inner
woman intensely (stay at home, own family). Their different development
goals do not match. Therefore the separation is correct. But anyway, for
inner women it is hard to separate.
Case 2) "I'm afraid of you," told me just a male colleague. "You
seem so strong, that you could actually do all alone, and on top of this
your income is high, too. There isn´t place for a man ". My question:
Can a man only be interested in a woman when he feels superior to her?
It depends on the personality structure of the man. If he has got a high
inner woman share, he will feel attracted by a strong independent woman.
The higher his inner man share is, the more he wants to feel superior. The
questioner should seek a partner with low inner man share.
Case 3) Unfortunately I am late when it comes to men. With 33
years I had only one friend, while almost all of my friends are married
for a long time by now or have a boyfriend. Often I'm the only single woman
among many couples. Although I have many girlfriends it is maybe just because
I'm boring and inexperienced, jammed? When I meet a nice guy, I'm too shy
to go on, because I do not know how to do it. At the same time I would like
nothing more than a dear friend or maybe a small family, who knows ...?
She has got an inner woman personality (missing energy, great longing
for relationship) and feels inferior (boring). First of all, she should do
something against her feelings of inferiority, best a therapy.
Then a delicate inner man partner, who is also shy, would suit her. If
she learns to emit delicate signals, exactly the appropriate type of man
The inner woman is an indispensable part of every personality to live
happy relationships. She gives humans emotional depth and fulfillment. A
healthy inner woman is very important for a high quality of life.