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Get to know the inner family
(inner child, inner woman, inner man): The human psyche is composed by the inner family with inner child, inner woman and inner man. The status of each inner family member and the cooperation between themselves gives the individual personality of every person. The healthier and the more cooperative the inner family is, the higher is the quality of life. That's why it is very important to get to know your inner family. All basic and background information you learn in my book „Spiritual Psychotherapy: The inner family“ (German edition, English translation is in progress), which has also a lot of information for interested layman. Not everything that is offered as inner child healing achieves fully this goal and the inner woman and the inner man are not yet known as essential components of the human psyche anyway. "Spiritual Psychotherapy: The inner family" is the standard reference, which for the first time describes the inner family as human psyche of transcendent man. To concretely know the inner family better in everyday life, I have organized in the networks Facebook and Google+ a special Christmas project (2015). Below you are going to find the result. |
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11/28/2015 - Get to know your inner family: Who wants to participate? Would you like to be accompanied by me to get to know your inner family? I offer here in this network a special Christmas project for the inner family. This Christmas project is connected to my guide for holistic practitioners "Spiritual Psychotherapy: The inner family", which has just been published in German and will follow also in English.The inner child is widely known, the inner family however only as a model in the field of systemic family therapy or energetically. The inner family as psyche of the transcendent human is completely new and I present it in my book. To give you an idea of what the inner family is, I would like to celebrate Christmas together with you through my inner family. This Christmas project is to learn about the inner family and the loving contact of its members. There will also be some healing, but without wanting to go into therapeutic depths of each individual case. It is the fun of a shared Christmas time with the inner family that is in the foreground. The Christmas project starts tomorrow on the 1. Advent and lasts until 1. January 2016. I'll introduce my inner family to you based on the Barbie dolls of the book cover and describe my Christmas season through them. I would be glad about contact with you, if you like also with any figures or in other creative form such as painting or writing, for example. But even if you only want to be inspired by me about the inner family, you are welcome. Each of the Advent Sundays (or perhaps additional times in between) I'll talk with you about my inner family. For this I will post you my personal Christmas time of last week and respond to your experiences in the comments. Also on Sundays from 18.00 to 18.30 o´clock I'll let loving energy flow to all those involved. Tomorrow on the first Advent I am going to start. In addition beginning on the second Sunday of Advent directly thereafter at 18.45 o´clock I'm going to organize webinars in which I will answer your questions about the inner family. Since I have no experience with webinars yet, I need to make myself smart and ask your indulgence about technical issues. Within this framework I am completely open about the content with which my inner family goes into contact with your inner families. It will also be a surprise for me about what develops. I am looking forward to a nice common Christmas time with all those, who wish to participate. All the best yours Ayleen |
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11/29/2015
- Sunday, 1. Advent My inner
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Comments: Hello Ayleen, I like to join ........ What shall I do? ----- Fine, I rejoice. How do you want to represent your inner family? And how do your individual inner family members look upon Christmas time? Feel into yourself: Is your inner child happy, if you give her / him the promise (sincere and also carried out) for a beautiful Christmas season? Greetings, yours Ayleen |
Inner child: Yes, I am looking forward to the many gifts, the great decorated tree and the lights that sparkle so beautifully. The fire in the furnace, that is so beautifully crackling and when we sing .... “Oh Du fröhliche, oh du selige, Gnaden bringende Weihnachtszeit“..... this is such a beautiful song. Inner woman: Oh, the hard work, everything gets hung up on me and if I tell the others what to do, it will not be done in the way as I want it. Therefore I prefer doing it myself. But it annoys me, that they cannot do it right. Bad mood and maybe dispute are the result. Inner man: Oh, actually quite nice if there wouldn´t always prevail so much pressure and perfectionism. In a pub, with friends and with my wife, it would be fun and not as stiff. I am looking forward to the good food and I am pleased with the laughing children's eyes when they open their presents. ----- Who would like to present his inner family, too? I am really looking forward to you. Yours Ayleen ----- Back again directly to your inner family. Try the following with your inner woman. Make a list of everything your inner woman thinks she has to do and then put it in front of your inner man. What does he consider as unnecessary and where does he find more practical solutions? If your inner woman orientates herself more at the view of your inner man, she will feel relieved. Greetings, yours Ayleen |
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11/29/2015 - Ritual: Healing the love center of your inner family This evening
from 18.00 until 18.30 o´clock I would
like to perform a common ritual with you, which
is under the topic: Healing the love center of your inner
family. |
Comment: It was a nice quiet and very relaxing meditation. |
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11/30/2015 - Therapeutic Quality: Appreciative attention of the inner family and transfer into everyday life Today
I have a voluntary exercise for you about appreciative attention of your
inner family and transfer into your normal
everyday life. Pay equally attention to every member
of your inner family and acknowledge their respective
contribution to your life. For my inner family it looks
like this: free online courses belly dancing My inner
child gives me the enthusiasm for the Christmas
season and has the most fun at this Christmas project
of the inner family. |
12/1/2015
- We are building a gingerbread
house The last
three years, after my son had grown out of
the age of building a gingerbread house, I designed
my gingerbread house very simple. I bought two packs
sweets mix, which were packed in flat cardboard houses, sticked
them together and decorated them. Accessories such as barn,
witch, Hänsel and Gretel (German fairy tale) were already
available. My inner family thought the following:
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Hello my dears,
a few times I
have heard the objection, that while there is interest
in my inner family Christmas project, it disturbs that
everything is public. These concerns are, of course, entitled,
but my goal is to make the inner family and how to practically
deal with the inner family well-known for everybody.
Who is hampered
by the fact that everything is public, can temporarily
set up an account under a pseudonym and participate
from there. In this respect, I don´t distinguish
between personally known and unknown persons anymore, but
open this account for everybody who wants to join in.
If I do personally know you, you can tell me your pseudonym.
Otherwise, you
are welcome just as a spectator, too, because with
my inner family I will show you completely open my personal
way of celebrating Christmas – but interactively I would
like most. Perhaps even without your own inner family you
may comment about some of my topics?
In this sense
a Merry Christmas season
wishes your Ayleen
12/1/2015 - Instruction for a gingerbread
house with light and without baking My inner family is enthusiastic about my
idea for this year's gingerbread house. |
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12/2/2015
- Therapeutic
Quality: conscious inner decision Exercise: Inner children love to build
a gingerbread house, but nevertheless it remains a
decision of the entire inner family, whether and in what
form a gingerbread house is built. |
12/3/2015 - How can I participate at this Christmas project? Question: Your Christmas project is very interesting,
but I am not familiar with the inner family and
therefore do not know how I can join. |
Comments: Hello Ayleen, I want to try the first alternative: Christmas Eve and some days before and afterwards I spent at my parent´s home. Just recently I have been experimenting with the time perspective treatment of Zimbardo and the couple Sword. That made me take more and more positive past experiences into focus again. This is a main focus of the approach next to satisfactory activities in the presence and objectives in the future to be worked toward. It has struck me that I previously enjoyed the celebrations much more. In short, I want to juxtapose the sequences. Anticipated is, that my mother is still alive and I have four brothers and sisters. Today it is so that everybody gives a present to everyone. This tradition developed over time. In the childhood it was different. But that isn´t all that relevant. Previously, the living room was closed for us on the day before Christmas. There the manger was prepared, the tree decorated and so on. And the room was really so completely closed that we (five) children had no insight into it. At some point - if I remember right after the Christmas Mass - we were allowed to enter the living room. Today ... everything is done together and the living room is open for all. Even ... before the giving of the presents we see how they are slowly stacked. Because all of us six persons put the presents at the same time ready for the other family members. I think the combination of waiting, by it generated anticipation and ... the influence of the Christ child, which one perceived quite differently as a child, made the difference to me. Today it looks more like this: - We just see each other. That doesn´t often happen in the year because we all live scattered outside the parental home, but it is also nothing special. - Then things will be exchanged. Sometimes you get – that´s boring – just what you wanted. Sometimes one is more or less positively surprised by the own ideas of the siblings. But nevertheless ... it´s nothing really great. Perhaps ... for some time I am so embroiled in internal processes that I generally ... no longer react so sensitive to external stimuli. My hypothesis. :) Did not know if ... I posted at the right place here (?) ----- First of all, it is the right place and I am very happy that you're here. Your thesis that you are more concerned with internal processes and therefore react less to external stimuli, is certainly true. But in fact, you can intensify tremendously your internal processes, when you use the external stimuli as a mirror to better recognize your inner processes You could, for example, have a closer look on why it rather bores you when you get what you wish for. Namely, there is a deeper yearning behind it. In addition, you describe yourself as a child from the past very well. In fact, however, your inner child would be as happy as in the past on Christmas even today, so it is worth investigating where it since remained. Best regards your Ayleen ----- Although I ... actually draw also a lot of strength from joyful moments in the past. An essential facet of the time perspective therapy is to respond to flashbacks (reliving traumatic experiences) by gently refocus attention on positive past experiences. Otherwise ... this year I have again highly personalized gifts for the family members. And my brothers and sisters or at least some of them ... also try from time to time to actively respond more creative than just taking things from the Amazon list with wishes of the others. This is more the emergency option if you really have no idea. :) But ... first, I must think a little about your impulses and look at them deeper. ----- For the Integrative Psychotherapy of the inner family you need both, stability and healing. The ego-stability by strengthening the resources (e.g. via positive memories) is a necessary requirement for the healing of old injuries with regression to the inner child or EMDR. Transferred into an image, if somebody has got an injured leg and a healthy one, it makes sense first to strengthen and use the healthy leg to learn how to cope well with everyday life and relieve the injured leg to heal it. Finally the person goes equally well on two legs through life. A trauma therapy without looking at the old injury remains incomplete. ----- Hm ... as a gut feeling ... I would agree with you. But ... I'm not sure. In the time perspective therapy, for example, confrontation doesn´t exist. Some other techniques or approaches also believe in the only power of resources. Ultimately this shall lead to a developing process, too. Somewhere I read ... that it is not necessary to drive on the severe things explicitly. They would the other way round visit oneself. From my experience, I would simply confirm this. ----- You're absolutely right, the severity actually comes to us from alone, because everything unredeemed time and again wants to make aware of itself until it is healed and the person has learned. Actually, most people who are "forced" to learn eventually do it, but with lots of energy spend on continued repression unfavorable patterns can also often be repeated. If you decide yourself for healing and development instead of fighting against a seemingly external fate of severity or to resign, life becomes a learning task that you can actively live and the severity is resolved as quickly as possible. To look at the severity and resolve it is much easier than to run away or to helplessly endure or to fight it. This decision for development only requires a lot of courage. ----- I think, you have to come to the right middle of the performance range. In reference books often referred to with the term "window of tolerance". And there you will get ... with skills. Yes, you have to deal with the severity. But ... for me, I deal with it through the strong application of EMDR anyway. ----- In fact, with EMDR you have got a very strong way to heal emotions. How are you dealing with the feelings that you stir? [Note: How the different forms of EMDR are used, I explain in a German journal article. In addition I have published the books "EMDR for babies" (in English) and "Spiritual EMDR" (English translation in progress).] ----- Good question, I'll have to ponder ... first, think about it. At the moment I try again with avoidance. Or so ... somehow on the level of understanding I comfort me with anything as far as possible. Or somehow look at it as a learning experience. So that it was a kind of "training money" that wasn´t paid in vain. ----- To process and reflect something intellectually makes sense in any case, but the EMDR method aims to stir up feelings in order to process them then. If you are simultaneously applying EMDR and then try to avoid the thus triggered feelings, it's like to go full throttle with a car and apply the brakes at the same time.Therefore, I see your approach as questionable. Kind regards your Ayleen ----- Yes ... the "taking" and "accepting" of experiences or its facets is something I "should" do, but where it is still lacking something. I have recently increasingly become aware of this. |
12/4/2015 - How did I actually come up with the idea for this Christmas project of the inner family? I love Christmas tradition, but in retrospect
I particularly keep the special Christmas times in
my memory, such as my first year of marriage with Christmas
in England or when I, on another occasion, from inwardly wrote
the text of my illustrated book "The Lord's Prayer for Mystics"
(only in German) between Christmas and New Year or years later
when I changed into a spontaneous transcendence state with a
time sense of eternity, which apparently the others unconsciously
felt, too, by confirming the unusually profound peace atmosphere.
In contrast, the remaining also quite lovely Christmas times lost
their individual character and flowed together to Christmas with
parents, as a couple and as a family. |
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12/5/2015 - Webinars about the inner family in everyday life: Part 1 inner child English page about the webinar
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12/9/2015
- A day in Advent In the morning I usually
wake up without an alarm clock. At what time I wake up,
my divine consciousness regulates in regard to what's coming
up for the day. So at powerful days I already get up at about
5.00 o´clock in the morning, but yesterday was a relaxed
day with my life partner, so I slept until just after 6.00
o´clock. First, I water my flowers then, finish various
tasks, yesterday I designed the concept for my next belly dance video
recordings and answer my many e-mails. Currently, I also often
look at our Christmas project. While this efficiently doing of
things, mostly my inner man is standing in the foreground, usually
in cooperation with the other inner family members who are the most
appropriate for each task. |
Comment: Dear Ayleen, thank you
for telling us so detailed about your day. That helps me
a lot in understanding my own inner family. Thank you! |
12/10/2015 - Webinars: The inner family
in everyday life
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12/17/2015 - Self-confidence inner man A client of mine has
/ wants to present self-assured his inner man. Therefore
I gave him the homework to post every day in identification with
his inner man about what he is proud on himself. He shall focus
onto achievement. |
I am proud,
that out of my inner man I can assess situations well and in this
respect can act well and partly rescue situations or perhaps make
them more enjoyable. At least I think so. Is this out of the inner man?
Or is that another part? It would interest me, how a biological man perceives
his inner man. I think that helps to be able to distinguish oneself 3
shares. ----- Actually, I think this is more the inner woman. The inner woman is trying to create relaxed situations. ----- I agree. It's actually more the inner woman - but great that you appreciate her values. Greetings Ayleen ----- Well,it's my turn now. I am very proud on myself how I mastered the day when it came to organization and to high performance with perfect quality, which I was responsible for. Today I achieved everything that I set myself for a goal. I earned the end of work and I wish everybody a good night. ----- Very nice that there were many things on which you can be proud, but your comment is still rather a mandatory task than a really proud feeling. I would like to feel the inner man who is so occupied by his own magnificence, that there is nothing else than to talk about how great he himself is. Greetings Ayleen |
12/17/2015
- Advent baking with my inner family Today we baked two
cakes and cookies all together. For this combination my inner man was responsible
with his efficiency thinking. Two cakes, one in a bigger and
two in a smaller form, just fit into my oven, which is in addition
preheated after the cookies. Altogether needs exactly one box
bakery margarine and a packet of ten eggs, so that there are no
leftovers. I freeze the cakes for Christmas, then the days before
are more relaxed. |
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12/18/2015
- Christmas
party with plans for the future Today I enjoyed an intensive connected Christmas party together
with nice people. Who of my inner family celebrated it? For
my inner child I gave a special Christmas party last year, when
three of us played together with our Barbie dolls. Therefore my
inner child was more in the background this year. For this purpose, I make the earthly
psychical structures of the human being as inner family known
through my guide "Spiritual Psychotherapy: The inner family" and
additionally spread through belly dancing a basic way to develop
the inner family psychical through the body. So I extend
my Belly Dance Online Courses in future, in addition to concrete
personal offerings. That's why today I invited to my Christmas party
those I consider to be best suited to targeted develop individual inner
family members. I presented them my plans and was happy about their
great interest. In this respect I would like to offer more extensive
possibilities for the inner family in future. With caring
for oneself, sporting fitness and joy of dance, it is almost
incidentally possible to develop the inner family and thereby
gain in quality of life. For this, it is nothing more necessary
than to choose the correct hobbies and with knowledge of the inner
family that is very simple. My tuned to the inner family offering that
I intend to gradually build together with qualified persons, will support
you in this. So I'm
going to introduce courses that are specifically adapted to promote
certain inner family members. My Belly Dance Online Courses, for
example, assist specifically the inner woman and other services
are planned. Together with me you can look forward to the future. |
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12/20/2015 - Healing meditation and webinar for the inner man at 4. Advent Today we celebrate our meditation for healing the inner family from 6,00 to 6,30 p.m. |
Comments: Good morning Ayleen ....... where can I ask my question for today´s webinar about the inner man? Should I write to Dr.S ......... e-mail? ----- Yes, fine. It is good, if the anticipating questions are already placed on Dr.S-H@web.de , because otherwise apparently not all arrive and longer matters appear rather dismembered on my screen. Greetings, your Ayleen |
12/21/2015 - Resources for handling your inner family On this page page with resources you´ll find everything, that can help you with your inner family. It is in German so far, but my English book “Spiritual Psychotherapy: The inner family” will follow. Best regards Ayleen |
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12/22/2015 - Christmas market The first years in Berlin
I visited the most famous Christmas markets, but since then there
hasn´t been an inner impulse any more to go to further Christmas
markets. Instead of this I have got a Christmas market at home now
(look at the photos). |
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12/22/2015
- Christmas preparations
Today I have begun with the Christmas preparations.
And you? When do you begin? |
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12/23/2015 - Tinkering with my inner family During Christmas time I also enjoy to tinker.
In which my inner family works together. It is always that family
member in the foreground, which is needed most. For example, I
have poured candles, made straw stars, shaped with salt dough, sewed
nutshell dolls, raised pearl jewelry, cut tealight shieldings, worked
with glitter foil and whatever else came to my mind. As an artist
soul I am talented for creative things. Most of it I have given away. |
![]() Search: Do you find the following 5 items? 1) The climbing Santa Claus, 2) the somersaulting reindeer, 3) the singing Christmas bauble, 4) the blue red ring from the tinker picture and 5) the walnut doll (see also the tinker picture). |
12/23/2015
- Looking forward to Christmas
Hello my dears, I like the two CDs because they are so merry, that I have
several favorite songs. What music do you listen to at Christmas? |
12/24/2015 - Christmas Eve My inner man likes manageable traditions and
has everything well organized, so that the following sequence is
scheduled for Christmas Eve. From 4.30 to 5.00 o´clock p.m.
I start with another healing meditation for the inner family. Maybe
you have time and feel like it to join. |
12/24/2015 - Therapeutic quality: The inner family mirrored by the others Many of you are likely
to spend the Christmas celebrations with your families. This is
an excellent opportunity to get to know your own inner family better
with the help of the others. As souls did you choose exactly your parents
as a learning task. What qualities do they have? - Even if your parents
live them so distorted or unbalanced that they are not immediately
recognizable as qualities, there are qualities underneath and you should
have a closer look. |
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12/24/2015 - Merry Christmas! I wish you a Merry Christmas, best with my today's message from my calendar: The best love is the kind that awakens the soul, that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That´s what I hope to give you forever. |
12/28/2015
- Christmas days Hello my dears, |
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12/29/2015 - Resolution Who of you did find the following 5 items
at the picture? |
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my mimosa |
12/30/2015 - Frills Also my inner woman likes frills. I have just
bred this mimosa. Three years ago I had a carnivorous plant (Venus
Flytrap), which I enjoyed to feed with cheese and eggs and I love Do-not-touch-me
(sorry if this isn´t the right translation). |
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12/31/2015 - Horoscope My spiritually connected inner woman is interested
in horoscopes. Years ago, during my training as a non-medical psychotherapy
practitioner I have been asked by others about my horoscope, because
I've done the training with much power so unusually fast within 4 months.
Well, today I have my horoscope for you. |
![]() Bleigießen with my inner family. |
12/31/2015 - Bleigießen I talk about a tradition “Bleigießen”.
It is an oracle. Do you have oracles at New Year's Eve, too? |
![]() My inner family celebrates.
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12/31/2015
- Celebration |
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1/1/2016
- Happy New Year 2016 I wish you a Happy New Year 2016, health,
happiness and all the best. "Ab in die Tanzschule 2"
and "Ab in die
Tanzschule 4". and to dance the double CD "World Hits Reloaded". Then until midnight we loved each other under the Christmas tree, touched glasses on 01.01.2016 at 0.00 o´clock with water and organized fireworks outdoors to about 1.00 o´clock.
Afterwards we did our oracle with Bleigießen
and ate “Berliners” (I think in Berlin they are called differently).
My spiritual order is: Ambassador of love, take the love with you and
guide it into the earthly structures. Therefore additionally I asked
the question at Bleigießen: How can I best reach the community?
The response you see in the photo: I shall plant seeds and then let them
grow. |
![]() My inner family puts away the presents. |
1/2/2016 - The end of the
Christmas project about the inner family Today my friend and I cleared all Christmas stuff into the basement. The LED shoelaces in the video were among my Christmas presents and are put away in the meantime, too. For us, the Christmas season is over now. |
Comments: Oh, that was fast. With us, the Christmas decoration is hanging I believe ... deep into January or February. Otherwise ... the decorating is hardly worth it.. ----- I also know this from my parents, but I myself am a person who does always everything particularly intense (my inner man loves extreme) and therefore I enjoy the Christmas atmosphere very much - and just as intense now I start into the New Year. Kind regards your Ayleen |
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Notice Christmas
project 2016 If you want to participate in another Christmas project about the inner family with inner child, inner woman and inner man in a slightly different form in 2016, you can follow me on Facebook and / or Google |
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