parents and family
welcome to the inner man
The inner man is part of the inner family with inner child, inner
woman and inner
man. In my Christmas project 2015 about the inner family I talked
about the inner child, the inner woman and the inner man in three German
webinars. Here you´ll find the content of the webinar no.3 about the
If you want to participate in another Christmas
project about the inner family with inner child, inner woman and inner
man in a slightly different form in 2016, you should follow me on Facebook and / or Google+.
All basic and background information you learn in my book „Spiritual Psychotherapy:
The inner family“ (German edition, English translation is in progress), which
has also a lot of information for interested layman.
Spiritual Master Ayleen Lyschamaya
Webinar about the inner family - part
3: The inner man
Welcome to my webinars about the inner
family in everyday life as I describe the inner family in my book "Spiritual
Psychotherapy: The inner family". Today I talk about the inner man.
Apparently, this is a particular interesting subject, because I have
already received a number of e-mails. But basically they run more or less
all on the one question what the inner man actually is. That indeed you
can´t know so far, because I represent the inner man for the first
time in my book about the inner family.
It is best, if I introduce the inner man to you by his influence in everyday
life. There are some areas where he has his particular strengths, so that
one's life is more positive, if you can fall back on an inner man in your
In my webinar about the inner child I have already explained that an
overdependence on other people can arise from a love starving inner child.
However, there may be further reasons added that belong to the inner man
or rather his absence.
The inner man is independent, separated and prefers to be for himself,
while the inner woman looks for deep connection. Only if both parts of
the personality are balanced in the psyche, a person is in equilibrium.
He or she is then equally sociable, connected with others and independently
on his or her own.
If the inner man is underdeveloped in the psyche, the person is looking
at other people for the inner man qualities stability, orientation, security,
protection, demarcation and enforcement, for example, of medium- to long-term
goals. A person with little own inner man can be downright dependend on
an external partner with a high inner man share.
In particular for the following areas of everyday life the inner man
is very important. He is responsible for converting things into concrete.
For example, this can be practical things as technical expertise and craftsmanship.
But the inner man is responsible, too, if intuitive inner guidance shall
not only be received, but also actually be performed.
Through the inner man a person gets clarity, knowledge and understanding
of relationships. He thinks logically and strategically and has the overview.
For example, especially the household cannot be organized well without
the inner man, because the diversity of it overwhelms the inner woman on
The inner man is also of particular importance in the professional field.
In many professions positive male self-presentation and self-confidence
are crucial to success.
Therefore the inner man is a very important inner personality aspect
in the human psyche to whom you can ask questions now, if you like.
Question 1): You say, that the inner man refers to himself. Can
somebody actually have a too strong inner man share and thus will be too
No − unless specific circumstances as childhood developmental disorders
are present, there can´t be a too strong inner family member in the
personality. If a part of someone´s personality seems too strong, there
is always the compensation by another personality share missing. The seemingly
too strong personality part needn´t be fought, but a deficiency must
be remedied. So, if an inner man personality is too self-centered, this
person would have to develop his or her inner woman to be balanced in dealing
with others. If, perhaps, the inner man personality is even as a whole rather
callous, probably the inner child is hurt, too, and should also be healed.
Question 2): Do I understand it right, that someone who stands
out negatively male, actually has no problem with his inner man, but with
the rest of his inner family?
Yes, exactly. There can be a lack of inner family members and thereby
lack of balance, the inner family members can be badly connected and the
inner man can be injured, but the inner man as such is always a very important
and positive force in the human psyche.
Question 3): What do you mean by bad connection amongst the inner
This you can imagine just by families in everyday life. There are families
in which the family members deal positively with each other and others,
where they fight against each other. It is the same for the inner families,
their members can cooperate equally well or badly. A bad cooperation then
often manifests itself in an extreme change between phases with inner man
and inner woman personality, while a positive internally connected person
is particularly balanced.
Summarized question 4): I have got a conflict between my inner
man and my inner woman. How can I improve the connection?
Simply by concretely introduce yourself into the male-female issue in
everyday life. The external relationships reflect your inner mental patterns
and are intended as a learning task. The order is not firstly to make your
psyche perfectly and then enter into a relationship, but to heal your psyche
through the conscious living of a relationship. This isn´t taking advantage
of the other, but on the contrary a mutual assistance for development, which
is the more effective the more conscious it will be lived.
Summarized question by the same person 5): When I'm excited sexually,
I have a feeling of pressure behind the breastbone and it constricts my
throat. In general masturbation is negative for me. Does this have to do
with the connection of inner man and inner woman? Do you have suggestions
to the topic masturbation?
This seems to be such a complex and already old issue for you, that it
probably relates to your entire inner family.
With excitation you powerfully energize your system and that is first
physically noticeable in the area behind your breastbone, which is the energetic
area of the inner child. But then of course, the inner man inner woman relationship
adds as a further key issue.
With such a complex issue it makes sense to proceed step by step. Please
- First, write down all the thoughts that you have got about and while
- Then feel to every single thought, if there is a resonance in your
- Breath deeply into these resonance areas of your body and permit the
feelings that want to come up show themselves.
- These feelings you can assign to each inner family member then
- and heal accordingly.
Summarized question by the same person 6): I feel my body very
intensive, for example, my heartbeat in connection with my inner child. In
addition I have got headaches now and then and my awareness seldom reaches
my pelvis and legs, except when I heal my inner child. Medically I´m
healthy. Does this have to do with my awareness?
Yes, this has to do with your awareness. For you the inner child, the
first chakra (blocked legs), inner man stability (ground connection), sexuality
(missing awareness in the pelvis) and headaches as a defense belong close
together. Therefore, you can proceed equally well physically and with a
relationship for healing. As you know how to handle mental processes, it
is your free choice how far you want to involve yourself into intensive development.
With each, a girlfriend and masturbation, you are in any case going to trigger
most intensive development processes. So, involve yourself in everyday life
for spiritual development.
I hope, I could give you some sense of the importance of the inner man
as well as all three inner family members for the human psyche. Only when
inner child, inner woman and inner man are equally available and healthy
and all three family members cooperate lovingly together, a human being
has developed his or her full earthly potential. If such a person then also
lives out of his or her divinity, he or she has almost undreamt of possibilities
to live a deeply satisfying, loving and happy life. I would like to encourage
you to work together with me on your inner family. Everyone can fully heal
his or her inner family. There are procedures specifically to address the
inner man and it is worth it to use his force in everyday life. The healthier
your inner family is, the higher will be your quality of life. The peace
that you are living inside is going to be reflected by what meets you from
the outside. I am happy to support you with your inner family.